UPDATE: I have since left this church. As time went by it became more and more clear that the church I was at was a lukewarm (good for nothing) church. It was a c3 Pentecostal church. After a bit of research I found out that c3 churches are definitely places to avoid. Instead of focusing on god the focus was on themselves and money. They would also use rewritten bibles such as the passion bible that would warp gods message to push for their own message which was always about giving them money for miracles. People at c3 and similar Pentecostal churches are not being led by god but by themselves which means of course there will be all sorts of problems and wolves lurking in these kinds of churches.
I would advise anyone feeling ignored or as though they do not belong at church to examine carefully whether that church really is a church of god or not. The bible talks about and condemns bad churches so your not alone you have god on your side.
After recently moving to a new city I decided to start going to church to meet new people and to find out more about god to help strengthen my faith. I have always believed in God and Jesus but having never read the bible or went to a church before the experience of going to church was totally new to me and not what I was expecting.
Initially, I was given a very warm by a few people at the church and reckoned with time I would get to meet more people and make lots of great friends. After a few weeks of going to the church, I found out that they were having a summer BBQ which I thought would be a great opportunity for me to go and meet lots of great new people.
At the BBQ and was given the cold shoulder by everyone. Literally, nobody could be bothered to speak to me or even give me the time of day by smiling at me. I felt like a complete spare part just wondering aimlessly around waiting and hoping that someone would at least think “Hey, that’s a new person is on their own, I think I will just introduce myself to him and introduce him to my friends as well” but that never happened. One of the reasons I started going to church was to meet people at to help restore my faith in other people.. after getting severely bullied at school which has given me huge self esteem issues as well so this has been a real blow to me the fact that even at church I am not accepted and nobody wants to talk to me. When I got home after an hour and a half at the BBQ feeling lonely I got home and started having super negative thoughts about what I have done for people to hate me so much… and even that maybe I’m not a good enough person to be a Christian and these people could sense that so that’s why they ignored me but no! This experience really knocked my confidence and has really damaged my faith in people but not god.
Absolutely anyone can be a Christian!! Christianity isn’t a clique and everyone should be welcome at church and not ignored.
For anyone who has had a similar experience at church what I say to you is don’t let this get you down or beat you as god is your friend no matter what and is always there for you. If anyone is reading this and you are a pastor, preacher or just a churchgoer please include everybody in your church because luckily enough for me my faith in God is strong and I’m not going to let this experience stop me from being a Christian obviously but if I can imagine if someone was just starting out being a Christian and received the cold shoulder like this then this really is not good at all and could make them lose confidence in Christianity as that person may then WRONGLY think that this is what Christianity is all about when it is not so I beg you to please not give anyone the cold shoulder and make a super effort to include everyone and make them feel welcome also even people that have been going to church for a while make sure you still make an effort with them and above all don’t just lose interest and give up on them. Treat others how you expect to be treated.
I’m not going to stop going to the church and I will try my best to keep on making an effort but I guess there isn’t anything stopping me from going to two different churches on Sunday too so does anyone from Sheffield know of a good church I can go to that will accept me for who I am?
I have woken up this morning still feeling down and deflated thanks to yesterday. Maybe this church just isn’t right for me as even though I agree with a lot of things they say at the service I do not agree with something’s this church believe in. For example, at the church, they seem to think that you can buy a miracle… because the more money you give to the church the more blessed you will be. I kind of feel awkward as well when they pass the bucket around because I am unemployed/ self-employed and really struggling at the moment and only earn practically £10 a week so even though I do like giving money to the church £2 is all I can give which doesn’t sound much but that is actually quite a lot of money to me (seriously here in the UK you don’t get any benefits at all and if it wasn’t for my parents I would be on the streets) if I earned more money I would give more money to help others (not in return for a miracle though) but when they’re saying to get your credit cards out and to give lots of money I kind of feel bad.
Also there seems to be a really big divide in the church between white people and black people it really is a huge shame because there is no mixing at all as the white people go off to one side of the church in their groups whilst the black people go off to the other side of the church in their groups and don’t speak to each other.
Should I find a new church? I have posted on a couple Christian forums to get some opinions and the message I got back is that all churches are different and there are plenty of other churches out there that are not cliquey like this.