Charlize Theron in no rush to marry boyfriend Stuart Townsend

"I think if you are in a one- or two-year relationship, love is enough. You can thrive on that," the Monster Oscar winner, 32, tells Glamour for its July issue.

"when you hit years three and four, you realize that if you're going to live with somebody ... you have to be nurtured emotionally and spiritually, and you have to be intrigued. Because if that intrigue runs out, you're not going to want to go home anymore."

"I've always said that I worry about being with a man who doesn't flirt," she says. "I love that Stuart can watch tennis and tell me that he's got a crush on a tennis player. We're not meant to just like one person. But [that] doesn't mean you go and build a life with another person."

"Even when I was a little girl I never dreamed of the white dress and all of that," she says.

"I want to be clear: I am not judgmental about [the institution of] marriage. I am judgmental about how our government doesn't want to see the reality of gay and lesbian marriages."